Is it necessary to do general cleaning before the mother-in-law arrives?

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, two women who love the same man in their own way, is often not easy. It often seems to a mother-in-law that her son has not been given the conditions he deserves, and that the daughter-in-law is doing a lot (or everything!) wrong.
Wanting to please their husband's mother, many women try to anticipate her comments. But they don’t always know how best to do it. For example, how to prepare for an important visit? Do you need to do general cleaning or is it enough to just put things in their places and restore normal order?
Let's try to figure out this situation together.

Daughter-in-law's point of view

It is more difficult for the daughter-in-law in this situation. Before the next visit of the “high” guest, women choose one of two possible solutions.

Let everything be as usual

• Is the absence of dust specks and stains the main thing?? The usual order is enough, but there is no need to do emergency general cleaning. After all, my husband’s mother is not Rospotrebnadzor!
• This is our home, what, how and when to do is our business with my husband. The mother-in-law should be happy that everything is fine with us, instead of looking for dust in the corners.
• You still won't please her! At least the house will sparkle! So why waste energy and time on this.

ADVICE! Start preparing for your visit in advance. If this is not possible, pay special attention to the bathroom and kitchen. And leave the fight against dust in other rooms to your husband with a vacuum cleaner.

You still have to clean up!

• I want everything in the house to shine. It will be nice when the mother-in-law does not have the opportunity to make a remark.
• A “special” visit is a reason to finally do something you never get around to doing. For example, wash a chandelier that has become dim, disassemble the cabinets and mezzanines.
• I don’t want to spoil my relationship with my mother-in-law, and she likes the house to be “perfect.”

ADVICE! When preparing to meet your husband's mother, don't just think about spring cleaning. If your house is perfectly clean, but your family argues with each other for any reason, she won’t like it either.

Mother-in-law's point of view

What do world-wise women think?

• The house must be in order! And the woman is responsible for this!
• It is customary to prepare for the arrival of guests! This rule should not be changed, otherwise the family will face complete chaos!
• But if the daughter-in-law doesn’t have time, it's better to leave everything as it is than to get annoyed about the mother-in-law's visit.
• Pleasant communication with your son's family is much more importantthan polished pans.

ADVICE! You shouldn’t be indignant at your mother-in-law’s sloppiness or lecture her! Imagine your mother-in-law saying the same words to you. And if she never says such a thing, maybe it’s worth learning from her the wisdom of communicating with her daughter-in-law?

Drawing conclusions

As we see, women, regardless of their status (daughter-in-law, mother-in-law), advocate order in the house.

But their idea of ​​cleanliness may not coincide.

There is no need to create a cult of order! It’s better to think about where you will invite your mother-in-law, what concerts or exhibitions you will visit with her or the whole family.